On influence, power, and what we politely refuse to name I've been circling this topic for a long time. Not because it isn't important - quite the opposite. Because every time I tried to write about it, the result felt too neat. Too binary. As if it missed the lived messiness of what leaders actually describe to me, again and again, behind closed doors. It took a lot of listening to work out why. This isn't really about behaviour. It's about what happens when the rules you re