Can we be too nice? This is a question I’ve been carrying with me for a long time. Not because I ever doubted the value of kindness. I don't. It is one of my core values. However, because something about the way niceness showed up in my own experience never quite settled. There were moments when being described as kind or warm felt slightly uncomfortable. Not wrong. Just incomplete. At times, I wondered whether it was holding me back. I noticed that people who were more di